routsubasa

Damn, I feel bad. I've posted a ton in here and its probably unneccessary and annoying X'D

Forgive any misspellings, please. I'm usually using my phone and between autocorrect hating me and general difficulties using a touch-screen keypad I may misspelled occasionally >_<

rin

actually your explanation is good. don't worry about it to much ^^...

私は私が行くことを目的としたものがなかったでしょおが、私は私があることを目的としたものが終わったと思 います。

routsubasa

Worrying is one of those things I do best. Right up there with making tea and cuddling.

Forgive any misspellings, please. I'm usually using my phone and between autocorrect hating me and general difficulties using a touch-screen keypad I may misspelled occasionally >_<

Forsaken

being in love... it happened to me twice b4. i out grew it (i hope). only leads to heartbreak and trouble. at least for me. im sure there are some ppl out there that were successful in love. the odds cant be THAT bad.

rin

not just you having trouble with relationships. it's difficult because first is the eye who judge whether we like or not that guy/girl. and sometimes what you see is not the way you see it is.......


Sensei i think this thread is wrong when i put it..this thread suppousedly to put on general discussion.can you move this thread Sensei Ugetsu please....?

私は私が行くことを目的としたものがなかったでしょおが、私は私があることを目的としたものが終わったと思 います。

routsubasa

"Don't judge a book by it's cover" ironically works for anime and manga as well. Some doujins too. But it doesn't always mean it's a better book than it seems. Sometimes, what looks like a good choice can turn out terrible. Its a two-way street. Always be careful and look for the bad with the good to be safe.

Forgive any misspellings, please. I'm usually using my phone and between autocorrect hating me and general difficulties using a touch-screen keypad I may misspelled occasionally >_<

gkelly

For me honest love is simply true love, if u love someone, no matter if its old, young, black, white, tiny, tall, what really matters is if the feeling is true, if it is, nothing and noone can argue about it.

Ugetsu

I think it's OK here. Any other votes to move it??

10megaman

Love.

Well, if you want to get technical, love is not an emotion or a feeling. It's a lifestyle choice and selfless action.

Generally, love is: patient, kind, hospitable, generous, caring, tender, genuine.

Love is not: Want, desire, lust, greed, cruelty, ignorance, apathy, hatred, deceitful.

But eh, well, there's this attachment that is physiological, that people often describe as "love." Instead, it's not love, but attraction. If this attraction is fueled by desire for something like sexual intercourse, then it is lust, and hence, is not love. Though, it can go hand in hand with the feeling people tend to call 'love.' In some cases, though, people who are lusting may mistake it for being in love.

Thing is, feelings come and go with time. Sometimes it comes back.

But eh, to find 'the one' isn't about being the same or the opposite. Compatibility would have a lot to do with it, though. Primarily, things that are required: Having shared interests, but also contrasting interests. (That is, places where there can be agreement in some times and disagreement in others. Different opinions mean different insights.) Finding someone who can cover your weaknesses, and whose weaknesses you can cover. (Basically, people have flaws or weaknesses in some areas of their life, so having someone that can balance them out in certain situations is important.) For example, I'm pretty hot-headed and stubborn. I'd likely need help from someone who can be just as stubborn, but would be more even-tempered in making decisions.

Generally, though, here's something important. There is no 'the one' for people who are purely selfish and seek only to take, as well as for people who will be unfaithful, etcetera. Fidelity is an important aspect of a relationship. Commitment. People that aren't honorable or committed are people that don't belong in a relationship in the first place, so don't turn to these people, nor should you make an effort to change them if they are unwilling to change and/or are unable to make a genuine effort to change. Also, there is no 'one' for narcissists.

Also, well, sexism is very problematic, too. Men, for example, shouldn't disregard a woman's opinion or want them to be quiet simply because they don't want to hear what the woman has to say. But by the same token, the woman shouldn't be ignorant of a man's advice either. Advice should be judged not by personal frustrations or disagreements, but by weighing the validity through understanding how it would apply to a situation, and what the outcome would be.



The thing about what love is, verses the premise of romantic attraction, well, if you're wondering about romantic attraction, then what's said above would apply.

Bottomline: Certain traits are a must regardless of who the person is, if there is ever to be a 'one' for someone. Additionally, the primary factors of having "the one" revolves around a balance of traits between two people and the positive results that will come from two people being together. Compatibility. Similarities and differences are both essential for a relationship of sorts. Sharing some like interests but having areas where interests diverge and shift to different focuses can help encourage a bit of experimentation and act as a learning opportunity, plus keeps things interesting, so long as you don't compromise your values in the process.

Current character of mine shown in avatar image: Cherry
(Note: The image isn't one of my creation.)

I am 10MM. Space-Time Cross-Universe Traveler and Time Lord by rank, not by race. I am also a Combat Mage that specializes in Mid-Childean, Belkan, Ancient, and Crossover magic. (Some of it is a Nanoha reference.)

rin

@megaman your descriptions about honest love makes me cry......... I really agree with that.....is it still exist in this time .......i wish I'll find my honest love....... Tq megaman for you opinion ...it's really ....wonderful....

私は私が行くことを目的としたものがなかったでしょおが、私は私があることを目的としたものが終わったと思 います。